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> "Under no circumstances should you send any money.
> Even if you think you have come to know your Intended very well."
>
> This is the advice that appeared at the head of each profile page on a
Free
> Dating in the Philippines Web Site I used up to about eight months
ago. I
> believe it proved not only to be soundly based on a known practice but
to be
> the wisest piece of advice you could ever receive in the early stages
of a
> relationship. Several young hopefuls found themselves abruptly and
> permanently cut-off, forever, on account of it.
>
> The request for you to support some cause or other comes up, as a
rule,
> about two weeks into Chatting. They range from the need for
hospitalization
> (usually of the father) to being unable to pay the rent. To the
Western
> senses they appeared to be saying: "try him and see if he's the soft
touch".
> The amounts are always clearly stated, as are the reasons for it, even
if
> they have the familiar ring of: "I have heard that one before".
>
> Six months of frequent Chatting and exchanging lifestyle and family
> information by Post led me to believe this final Contact really was
the
> right one. Sincere, with steady academic employment and a
self-sufficient
> attitude to back it up. Her family appearing to be a well respected
identity
> in the Town in which they lived, and from what I could judge would be
what
> are known in the West as Middle Class. At no stage did they appear to
ask
> her to press me for money, and indeed the young lady herself (actually
> middle aged and never married) always seemed very capable of managing
her
> own financial affairs. In all, the sort of person to easily consider
> advancing your relationship to the very serious if that was your
intent (and
> I had already made mine known).
>
> So it came as a tremendous shock (almost eight months down the line)
to be
> asked outright, during a Chat Session, for 5000 pesos to make the trip
to a
> family reunion. The Cam was on at the time, and when I had recovered I
had
> the presence of mind to study her facial expressions. Usually smiling
and
> cheerful looking she had taken on a very serious countenance but there
was
> no sign of apprehension or fear? It was a "business as usual
expression" and
> as I played for time by pleading ignorance on what method might get it
to
> her by the scheduled date, she seemed to have all the information
right at
> her fingertips without ever glancing down to look at the script!
>
> The outcome at this point is "No outcome". At the close of Chat I put
a block on the Messenger Service leaving only an Email link, with an
email waiting for a "Please convince me as to why I shouldn't shut down
this relationship completely?" I have not of course sent any money and
have no intention of doing so. In fact the only reason I have left the
Mail link open is on account of how far our relationship had travelled,
though I doubt it will be travelling much further.
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
Wow! Good thing she found out what a cheap guy you are now, before you
became a member of her family. Are you looking for a wife or an
affordable servant?
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