I have taken this post and entered it in the new LIPC Forum under
"Living in the Philippines/
that might want to try that sight.
DJ
Hawaii
--- In LivingInThePhilippi
>
> As we see, there are two sides to every coin. I marvel at how a
> simple question or statement can bring so many different points of
> view on any given subject. It is also refreshing that we can agree or
> disagree on a given position without attacking the person.
>
> It is a parents preogative to decide the welfare and upbringing of
> their wards. Be it in a first or third world country. (One should
> judge the pros and cons and decide accordingly.
> question that really matters is what is in the best interest of the
> child (and not of the parent). That decision rests in the hands of
> the parent and as a parent we need to realize we owe it to our
> children to do what is in their best interest.
>
> The only concerns I regard as noteworthy in this thread is the age of
> the child when the time comes to relocate (I think we can agree it is
> easier when the child is under 7 yrs old.) and the overall outcome of
> the child's future.
>
> Less someone take an axe to my ankles, I am not, nor have I ever been
> or expect to be in this dilemma (my daughter is 40 yrs old) so I am
> only an observer and my opinions really don't matter, but they are MY
> opinions and that was what was asked. :-}
>
> Good Luck to all that have to deal with this.
>
> DJ
> Hawaii
>
> (Whew, I think that went well.....)
>
> --- In LivingInThePhilippi
> <carter_hannah@
> >
> > One more lonely vote for the minority:)..
> >
> > I just returned from a three week visit to Iloilo (every time I saw
> > a Caucasian--and there weren't many--on the street near La Paz, I
> > wondered... "is that Paul Agey?"). I might add I was the only white
> > female face I saw in the same time period. Every time I visit the
> > Philippines I feel more familiar and comfortable in my
> > surroundings. Oh please do not think I stayed at the Grand Dame: I
> > stayed at a little pension house called the Sikatuna Apartelle off
> > Jerios... I drank my coffee and had pan de sal in the mornings at
> > Bong's Bread House on the Plaza. I spoke to wonderful people at the
> > wet market, made my own friends and visited Madge's (70-year famous)
> > Cafe in the deep interior of the same market for real Filipino
> > brewed coffee.
> >
> > I was there to visit my eleven-year-
> > Joe!) and his dad over Christmas. His dad is an Ilonggo from
> > Bacolod, Kabankalan actually. Besides the incredible happiness of
> > seeing my beloved kid after 5 months apart, and his dad after a year
> > and a half, I was so deeply delighted to note the person my son is
> > becoming in that environment. This would have been his year to
> > begin middle school here in the States, just 45 minutes outside San
> > Francisco. I wasn't thrilled at the prospects just because I kind
> > of march to a different drummer and would like a deeper experience
> > for my son than what I witnessed my friends' children receiving.
> >
> > There he was at the airport, looking very much the Pinoy he is. He
> > had grown (something every mother wants to be sure of!) but lost a
> > bit of the bulk he left with, due to a more natural diet of rice,
> > fish, chicken, vegetables and of course an occasional trip to
> > Jollibee. When I visited his school I was so relieved to see
> > firsthand the caring attitude and professionalism of his teachers.
> > When I examined the textbooks, it became evident that their
> > curriculum was actually more advanced in study of English grammar
> > and math than what he was using here in California.
> >
> > Bottom line, I do not regret the painful sacrifice of being parted
> > from him for this time while he has a chance to bond with dad and
> > discover his other culture. He now speaks the language, Ilonggo,
> > almost fluently, without effort. I can see his contentment there
> > and the friends he has made.
> >
> > It has been anything but easy and yes, we have had our troubles
> > adjusting all around. But my dearest wish is to just do what it
> > takes to join them there as soon as possible, in the land of
> > smiles. As my son says, "Mom, I don't really want to leave, I just
> > want you to be here!"
> >
> > Maybe 2008 is the year I will find the way to do just that.
> > Hannah
> > Pleasant Hill, CA
> >
> > --- In LivingInThePhilippi
> > <californiarockers@
> > >
> > > Really? You think? Got kids? Retired? Here's the scoop, I retire
> > in
> > > 7 years. My daughter will be 15 then and irregardless how anyone
> > > feels she comes with us to Cebu. Now, actually, she knows the plan
> > > and it will follow through. But, who says our children decide?
> > Until
> > > my daughter reaches 18 she goes where my wife and I decide. I can
> > > not think of a better life's experience for her than living a few
> > > years in a country where she can see how spoiled American children
> > > really are? Maybe it will help in teaching her compassion. Family
> > > bonds, etc. Having been to both places I figure I'm right on the
> > > money. Want to wager a San Miguel? Gandts
> > >
> > >
> > >
> >
>
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