As we see, there are two sides to every coin. I marvel at how a
simple question or statement can bring so many different points of
view on any given subject. It is also refreshing that we can agree or
disagree on a given position without attacking the person.
It is a parents preogative to decide the welfare and upbringing of
their wards. Be it in a first or third world country. (One should
judge the pros and cons and decide accordingly.
question that really matters is what is in the best interest of the
child (and not of the parent). That decision rests in the hands of
the parent and as a parent we need to realize we owe it to our
children to do what is in their best interest.
The only concerns I regard as noteworthy in this thread is the age of
the child when the time comes to relocate (I think we can agree it is
easier when the child is under 7 yrs old.) and the overall outcome of
the child's future.
Less someone take an axe to my ankles, I am not, nor have I ever been
or expect to be in this dilemma (my daughter is 40 yrs old) so I am
only an observer and my opinions really don't matter, but they are MY
opinions and that was what was asked. :-}
Good Luck to all that have to deal with this.
DJ
Hawaii
(Whew, I think that went well.....)
--- In LivingInThePhilippi
<carter_hannah@
>
> One more lonely vote for the minority:)..
>
> I just returned from a three week visit to Iloilo (every time I saw
> a Caucasian--and there weren't many--on the street near La Paz, I
> wondered... "is that Paul Agey?"). I might add I was the only white
> female face I saw in the same time period. Every time I visit the
> Philippines I feel more familiar and comfortable in my
> surroundings. Oh please do not think I stayed at the Grand Dame: I
> stayed at a little pension house called the Sikatuna Apartelle off
> Jerios... I drank my coffee and had pan de sal in the mornings at
> Bong's Bread House on the Plaza. I spoke to wonderful people at the
> wet market, made my own friends and visited Madge's (70-year famous)
> Cafe in the deep interior of the same market for real Filipino
> brewed coffee.
>
> I was there to visit my eleven-year-
> Joe!) and his dad over Christmas. His dad is an Ilonggo from
> Bacolod, Kabankalan actually. Besides the incredible happiness of
> seeing my beloved kid after 5 months apart, and his dad after a year
> and a half, I was so deeply delighted to note the person my son is
> becoming in that environment. This would have been his year to
> begin middle school here in the States, just 45 minutes outside San
> Francisco. I wasn't thrilled at the prospects just because I kind
> of march to a different drummer and would like a deeper experience
> for my son than what I witnessed my friends' children receiving.
>
> There he was at the airport, looking very much the Pinoy he is. He
> had grown (something every mother wants to be sure of!) but lost a
> bit of the bulk he left with, due to a more natural diet of rice,
> fish, chicken, vegetables and of course an occasional trip to
> Jollibee. When I visited his school I was so relieved to see
> firsthand the caring attitude and professionalism of his teachers.
> When I examined the textbooks, it became evident that their
> curriculum was actually more advanced in study of English grammar
> and math than what he was using here in California.
>
> Bottom line, I do not regret the painful sacrifice of being parted
> from him for this time while he has a chance to bond with dad and
> discover his other culture. He now speaks the language, Ilonggo,
> almost fluently, without effort. I can see his contentment there
> and the friends he has made.
>
> It has been anything but easy and yes, we have had our troubles
> adjusting all around. But my dearest wish is to just do what it
> takes to join them there as soon as possible, in the land of
> smiles. As my son says, "Mom, I don't really want to leave, I just
> want you to be here!"
>
> Maybe 2008 is the year I will find the way to do just that.
> Hannah
> Pleasant Hill, CA
>
> --- In LivingInThePhilippi
> <californiarockers@
> >
> > Really? You think? Got kids? Retired? Here's the scoop, I retire
> in
> > 7 years. My daughter will be 15 then and irregardless how anyone
> > feels she comes with us to Cebu. Now, actually, she knows the plan
> > and it will follow through. But, who says our children decide?
> Until
> > my daughter reaches 18 she goes where my wife and I decide. I can
> > not think of a better life's experience for her than living a few
> > years in a country where she can see how spoiled American children
> > really are? Maybe it will help in teaching her compassion. Family
> > bonds, etc. Having been to both places I figure I'm right on the
> > money. Want to wager a San Miguel? Gandts
> >
> >
> >
>
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